Here’s the deal - if you’re waiting for the perfect span of time where your calendar will be free of any and all alcohol related events or gatherings — you will be waiting forever.
Quitting alcohol isn’t a convenient process and quite frankly it might never be. That’s because it’s ingrained in our society and culture as part of EVERYTHING. There’s always going to be something coming up in life where alcohol is going to be present. Weddings, birthdays, parties, holidays, gatherings — they don’t stop when you make a decision to change your lifestyle.
It’s quite the contrary actually. YOU have to be the one to stop using alcohol in the ways in which you used it, or even abused it, in those settings. The settings don’t change. YOU do.
The change is hard. Especially at first. I won’t lie and say it isn’t. It’s hard to do something outside the norm and against the grain. It’s going to feel awkward and inconvenient at first because you won’t be used to it. But it doesn’t last forever.
It’s the stringing together of time and days without drinking in spots where you would have that makes the difference. It’s getting through those situations like the weddings and parties and work functions where you could choose to drink, but instead choose differently so that you can see how it actually feels.
I always say, the way you learn to not drink is by NOT drinking. It may sound insensitive, but it’s the honest truth. And at the end of the day, is living with hangovers and shame more convenient?? I highly doubt it. You have a choice - a short term inconvenience for long term freedom OR long term inconvenience for short term freedom? Think about it.
My heart is SO full. I truly did not know it was capable to feel this much love and joy and gratitude all at once. My body is so full of emotions and it is flooding out of every pore. It hasn’t seemed to stop. I’ve only been at my new job for three days and my whole world has transformed and so has my heart. I’ve felt places in my heart that I haven’t felt in a long time come alive. To think back to what I used to think life was about, to think back about who I once was and what I wanted. To have a kid ask you to read a book for them, to watch them grow and learn and work with each other. To feel bone tired but still have enough energy to build a Fort and wash a kids face. To already feel fulfilled from within but have their love and witnessing their journey fulfill you even more that it’s not possible for your body and soul to hold that much emotion and love. I’m the newcomer, I’m in the deep end, I know the least of everyone, but I’m willing to learn and grow in this new chapter. I am blessed to have a tribe of women working with me who are nurturing, give me guidance and direction. They empathize with me being new and are also on this journey of me learning new things and growing. What a life. What a life. And to think it could get even better is unbelievable ❤️❤️❤️ #suitupandshowup#giftsofsobriety#spiritualwarrior#grandadventure#newstart#gratitude#grateful#quote#thisislife#blessed#newlife#sober#recovery#teacher#childcare
✨🌟Sometimes we put too much pressure on ourselves to do a lot, be busy, or do what others are doing. 🌟Here's a reminder that it's okay (and great) to slow down, do less, take time to breathe, relax, regroup, listen to yourself, put yourself first, and get a recharge so you are refreshed, comfortable, and confident in your own self. ✨What's your go-to self care activity? 🙌 📷 by @avamariedoodles
You literally can do everything you want, everything you dream of, and then some. I mean I’m training for Triathlons 🤯 🤷🏼♀️🏊🏼♀️ 🚲🏃🏼♀️I couldn’t do those types of activities when I was snorting junk up my nose, swallowing handfuls of pills, slamming down the beers, and chain smokin’ them cigs.
Let me tell you what Lil Babies, everything is possible in a life FREE of drugs & alcohol/sobriety/recovery/sober life (insert your own language for it)
Shout out to @heatherdot for connecting me to my new swim coach, Ows Leo Briceno I’m so freaking excited I can’t hardly stand it. 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼 I gotta find me a camo swim cap before my next one in October!!
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@idgydean Friday, June 21st • 7-9pm at @theassemblagenyc ☀️ Join Darryl “DMC” McDaniels and me on the brightest day of the year for an uplifting evening of mindful music and conversation we’re calling #RecoveryRaconteur ☀️ ☀️ Campfire-style chats, lucid laughs, and inspiring AF personal stories about creativity, sobriety, and the legacies of rock & roll, rap, and recovery. Idgy Dean will kickoff the night with a guided Kriya meditation, followed by an inspirational talk led by the legendary DMC. They’ll close with a Q&A and a performance of their latest collaborative work, “Remember This (3 into 4).” •
RECOVERY RACONTEUR MISSION STATEMENT: “The whole world aches when we lose our great creators to suicide, overdose, depression, and substance abuse. Hedonistic oblivion has been the assumed path for those called to the stage, but we have an opportunity to correct that narrative. There is no shortage of cool and clean mentors in our ranks, the new rebels, superhero role models who march to a beat of a different drummer. Yet awareness is rare about who in the spotlight is a success story of sobriety, when it is precisely this kind of revelation that has the power to rescue lives. Shame and stigma be damned, this is a counterculture celebration, and we are not going to be shy about our survival.” #RecoveryRaconteur#idgydean@kingdmc#rocknroll#rap#recovery#inspiring#storytelling#sober#creativity#cleanliving#wellness#kriya#yoga#meditation#summer#solstice#sobriety#soberissexy #livinglegend@thisisequilibrium 📸 @angelarubyj
Posted at: 2019-05-24 02:48:41
When getting into recovery people often forget to build a life that’s worth holding onto!
Drop in your gifts below! 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
So let’s talk about S O B R I E T Y🙋🏻♀️
Everyone has their own story and their own reasons for embracing sobriety. I’m not here to list them all out because there’s probably too many to count, each intriguing in its own unique way. I’ll someday share my whole story about the events that’s threw sobriety in my face, I mean like “listen up broad, you’ve got this pretty damn good option here.” But for now, I feel the need to at the very least, clear some things up...so here’s a few 👏🏽fun facts👏🏽
I am sober and intend on staying sober...like F O R L I F E...contrary to popular belief, my being sober now does not mean I’ll eventually be try and be a “wine with dinner” kind of gal
I have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol...like the one you have with that horribly toxic person who is so unbelievably good to you about 5% of the time but then is throwing up red flags the other 95%...and we’re talking, only good to you that 5% of the time to ale up for the horribly shitty things they’ve done to you. Label it what you want, I had a P R O B L E M with alcohol.
I can be around alcohol, but that doesn’t mean 100% of the time. It’s a b***ch of a thing but I’ve recently discovered there are times I crave a drink, either after a stressful day, or even just the social aspect of having a beverage in my hand - I am not Wonder Woman, I have to either remove myself from these situations (because I’m good at making excuses and will find one to drink if I have to), or be proactive about not being around alcohol so it’s not an option at the end of the work day or work week.
welp, just my musings for the day...time to continue to enjoy my rare steak poke bowl🙋🏻♀️
#sober#sobergirl #soberlife #soberaf #sobergirlsociety #1000hoursdry#soberevolution
A man at Starbucks stopped on his way out, saw the title of the book I am reading and laughed a little. He asked me how my book was and I told him it's fantastic. He then proceeded to say "is that a book about how to handle motherhood? A couple martinis to get you through it!" I stared at him thinking of what to say because I could see where he would get that impression. I must have stared a bit too long because his smile faded away. I politely explained that is a memoir of a new mother and her struggles to get sober. That was hard to get out of my mouth. He smiled again and told me to enjoy my book.
The way society looks at alcohol use in reference to motherhood needs to be altered and I'm happy to assist the word in changing their viewpoint.
✌️✌️✌️Filming in the woods. Is it Blair Witch Project Part 3?
Or are we documenting the depth of the addiction problem by visiting one of the homeless camps we have to visit to find our overdose survivors/participants.
You know...we work with the people who aren’t eligible for services because they won’t follow the rules. Or follow a certain schedule. Or agree to total abstinence. Maybe they haven’t hit bottom?
You know... the ones who “aren’t willing”.... so they have no where to go.
Shame on a system that disregards 90% of people with substance use disorder.
So...let’s make a documentary and tell the world.💯💯💯#timesarechanging.