Don't feel like you need to conform to gender roles if they don't suit you. Bow ties aren't reserved for men and I love pairing mine with everything from formal attire to jeans and a cozy sweater. You do you, my darlings!
This is Lenny, she is 70 years old. I asked her to tell me a little about herself during our shoot.
Lenny: “I would like to tell you, in short, a little about my life. I got married in 1970 at the age of 20 and had 2 sons. I wanted to be there for the boys as much as I could, when they were little, so I worked mostly in the evenings in a nightclub in Rotterdam, I stood at trade fairs as a hostess.
After being married for almost 18 years, my marriage broke down. To create a stable living environment for my children I changed jobs and I worked for 20 years at the ABN-AMRO bank as an executive secretary. With that job I was able to provide for myself and my children. In 1990 I married for the 2nd time, with Rob, my recently deceased husband.
In 1997 it turned out that I am genetically responsible for the BRCA-1 breast cancer gene. After a lot of research about this hereditary breast cancer gene, I have written a book about it in Dutch called "The Right Choice" and published in 2006. My sister unfortunately also carried this bad breast cancer gene and died in 2001 of the effects of breast cancer.
In 2007 my husband got 2 cerebral infarctions which had a considerable impact on our both lives. At that time I noticed that all the attention went to those affected. For the partners of the victims, who were also suffering immensely and who were often hardly able to cope with the care, was strikingly little attention.
I decided to write another book (in Dutch), specially for the partners. This book was published in 2010 and is called "It shouldn't get any crazier”. By seeing the reactions on my website this book is a real support for all caregivers who have a partner with NAH (Non Congenital Brain Injury). Because of the many much needed vacations that we took, I was able to sustain life. Unfortunately my dear husband passed away in December 2018.
Despite the many setbacks in life (and there were many), I still feel so cheerful, strong and full of life. I look forward with an optimistic curiosity to what life still has in store for me.
As soon as I put my rain boots away, winter returned and today I had to haul out the Nordstroms’s cashmere sweater, the Curio knit sweater-jacket, the NYDJ raggedy jeans and my decades-old Peter Fox booties with the adorable kitten heels. Will they ever come back? Also wearing my new glasses from @uberoptics in Petaluma. Wonderful selection; great people! Come back, spring!
For many women, it’s a challenge to make friends after 50 because past social connections from high school, college, work and parent organizations have faded. Children leave the nest, close friends move away, women retire and with retirement comes the loss of longtime relationships. Divorce and widowhood come into play, a move to a new community and the longing for a new tribe of female friends–all of these events can lead to an uncomfortable, occasionally lonely lifestyle. However, you do not have to be lonely. You hold the cards in your hands! My darlings, what do you personally do to fix things when you feel loneliness start to creep in?