It’s taken me a long time to understand why people say “Love yourself”, “Take care of yourself”, “Be good to you” . In so many ways it sounds so cliche but the more that I begin to really understand loving yourself, the more I see it as the single most powerful and viable choice we can make every single day.
Here’s why, we love and care for ourselves and we are;
More caring, more present
We make better choices for ourselves and those we love
We don’t put things off that are important today
We begin to see ourselves as part of the solution
We accept our mistakes and tell the truth
We learn to listen..really listen
We start listening to our intuition
We start caring for the Earth and Life
We start to feel our ancestors all around us
Life takes on new dimension and meaning
Lots of good shiz happens
But I’m curious how this works for you.. Today, every time you make a choice, no matter how simple that choice is.. take a deep breath and check in with your heart and ask yourself, “What do I really want or need right now? Really”⠀
If you get that “What I really need is chocolate or a million dollars” kind of answer, don’t disregard it. Just acknowledge it and then ask, “Ok if you had that, what would you really want or need right now?” Keep asking, until you can feel your heart talking. And just listen. You don’t have to act on it, unless you really, really want to. The most important thing —- the truly loving, caring, powerful thing is to just keep listening. It’s everything. ⠀
Tell me what your heart says..what your soul says. What was this like for you? Was it a lil awkward? ⠀
Be kind, be good to you. Really! It’s what matters most. ❤️🙏🏽❤️
Happy Monday! Today is a quick follow-up from last night’s post. 💕🌈🌸
Yesterday I attended my first baby shower. Despite knowing about it for months, I didn't realize that it was my first one until after it ended. That really got me thinking about the normalcy of everything recently.
Despite being tremendously grateful for the privilege, I don't think about being invited to a "girl's only" event or even the smaller moments as anything other than "normal" lately. And that in itself is so incredibly gender-affirming and something I never thought possible when I was younger.
While we're on the subject, what gender-affirming moments have you experienced recently? Let me know in the comments! 👇🏻
Also, Philly Trans Wellness Conference is next week. Will you be there??
Posted at: 2019-07-14 12:48:36
This is something I find really difficult.
I find myself so mad at my body somedays wondering what I am doing wrong, why isn't it getting better?.
Chronic illness is no joke, you can go from rocking hair and makeup with a hot little number and then find yourself on the bathroom in tears from the floor.
Chronic pain changes people, it's changed you.
You have to find a whole new way of living; it almost feels like you have to find your identity of who you are with this pain and illness.
How are we meant to be okay with this? Some days it just feels so unfair. .
What you see: A little boy feeding sheep.
What I see: Mase noticing that this little sheep was not as aggressive as the other sheep and wasn’t getting a lot of food like the others.
What I see: Mase calling the sheep over and giving the sheep his last piece of lettuce that he was saving for the right moment.
What I see: Mase being brave. He took his time and connected with this sheep. So much so that he was able to gently put his hand on its head.
What I see: Mase being kind. If you could only hear what Mase was saying. I got teary. I heard Mase say, “Hi little fella, it’s ok. You’re ok. I’ll be your friend. I’ll stay right here.”
What I see: In a world where you can be anything be kind. In a world where you can show anything to your kinds, show kindness. In a world where your kids are presented with an opportunity to be kind, they will lead by your example.
I’m so proud of you Mase. You are strong and courageous. You are brave and kind. You are everything I ever hoped and prayed you would be and so much more. 💕
Side note, I almost didn’t post this photo. It’s different than my other photos. There’s no doodles, no letterboards and for a brief moment I almost thought people wouldn’t like it. Then I saw what Mase was doing here. In a world where we can be anything, we also need to be kind to ourselves. These little squares are filled so much love for my boys and this photo belongs right here.
The little space I created over at @threelittlelens is where I share more of my day to day photos (like this one). There you’ll find a little less doodles and a lot more candid moments. Hope you end up following both of our little adventures here. 🥰
Photo tips:📱 Lightroom App - Light: Exposure +0.15, Temperature -3, Saturation -2, Shadows +30, Blacks +75.
I visited my classroom today. 😳
It felt all sorts of weird, but I had a car load of goodies to drop off. I’m not quite ready to go back...so thank goodness I have a month left. 😍
P.S. Anyone from Ohio want to be my coworker?? We have an intervention specialist position open. 🎉
The older you get the more you learn to accept the parts of yourself you think are ugly. Feeling good about yourself takes practice and patience especially as the world will always be judging you no matter what you do. Part of that process is showing kindness to other people. Your thoughts become your actions and if you can be kinder to others you’ll eventually start speaking to yourself that way.
So if you like something about someone tell them in that moment - even if they are complete strangers. Compliment them on their outfit, attitude, skills, talent, intelligence, compassion, whatever. You’ll possibly be surprised at their reactions. #makethelittlethingscount#bekindalways#bekindtoyourself
Today as a family we went to Tommy’s funeral and the one thing I’ve taken away is to be kind always - he took everyone under his wing and looked after everyone and his kindness was rewarded today with the love and support shown for his family 💙 #bekindalways
Don't tell a girl with fire in her veins and hurricane bones what she should and shouldn't do. In the blink of an eye, she will shatter that ridiculous cage you attempt to build around her beautiful bohemian spirit. - Melody Lee 👊🏻
Only 4 days until the kids break up for the summer holidays!! I’m so excited this year as Darcie is bigger and walking around so she’ll be more involved. We’re going to be doing our summer bucket list over the next few days and I’ve got a few ideas including take toys, clothes and books to a charity shop and buy a meal for a homeless person. It can be lovely to do all the fun stuff but I want to teach the kids that times aren’t always fun for others and we can try to help. What other ideas do you have for our bucket list fun or helpful?
This photo was taken yesterday in Crystal Palace Park on the way home from Amber’s party 💙
Today like many days in my life start far before the dawn came to play. As daylight did come so did the rains and the hurried pace of putting tools away and bringing in bits and pieces of a weekend we'll spent. Cords of chopped wood waiting to urgently get stacked before saturations ensues . ☔🌧️🤯😱
Amongst the morning madness I'm given pause by this beautiful flower. It reminds me to slow down and not use all my energy for the week in one day. Most of all it reminds me that even in the rain and wind, in the frantic pace of my mind as I try to focus and prioritize these tasks of the day that there is beauty everywhere 🌺🌻🌺 All one has to do is stop and see it for what it is and not for what we want it to be.
Much love and light.