I haven’t been 100% honest lately.
I have been struggling a lot. My mental health has been poor. Almost daily, I find myself stuck in negative thought patterns, picking my body apart in the mirror and being downright mean to myself. My body feels different to me than it ever has before. I am strong, but I am less lean than I have been in the past and as someone in the fitness space, I believe it is all but impossible to not feel a sense of pressure to look “shredded” and “fit” all the time. You are in some ways selling yourself through your physique in posts. When I was first getting started on here, I didn’t realize this. I was just having fun posting what I wanted but as it grows, so does the pressure I put on myself to look “good”, whatever that means
As someone who has a disordered background, I have to tread carefully in this and not give in to the pressures I feel. I catch myself having disordered thoughts and have to sometimes fight the urge to do extra cardio or to eat less and I’m scared. It’s scary when you go from feeling far removed from something to hearing it knocking on your front door again. I am giving myself as much grace as I can and being so kind to myself in all that I do, but when the monster is in your own head, trying to fight it off can feel like an insurmountable task.
I’m not 100% sure what my point is here. I guess I just want to share that it’s not all sunshine over here. Instagram is a highlight reel, it always will be, and that’s okay. There is nothing wrong with sharing the positive, but this post is to show the not so positive. Social media has bettered my life in so many ways, but this is tough.
All of you have always been nothing but supportive and encouraging of my journey and for that I am eternally grateful. I guess now I am just asking for extra grace and love as I work through my own demons and continue to work on finding unconditional self-love. Filming myself in the gym can be one of the hardest parts as it’s easy to pick myself apart in videos, but I’m working on it as I love sharing my lifts. Thank you for supporting me and letting me be me, even on bad days. It truly means more than words can describe 💛
Hating myself only set my mental health back a LONG way.
Hating myself saw me miss out on great opportunities that would have been incredible for my career. All because I didn’t think I was talented enough.
Hating myself saw me enter into (and stay) in relationships with people who put me down, belittled me and led me to dark places. All because I didn’t think I deserved any better.
Hating myself saw me push away good friends. All because I didn’t think I was good enough to fit in.
Hating myself saw me discredit everything that is amazing, pretty, intelligent and funny about me. All because I just couldn’t see past the “flaws”.
A couple of short years ago it clicked. I am only worth what I THINK I AM WORTH. So I raised the bar. I said no. I made difficult decisions and I walked away from the things were draining my energy without giving energy back.
Can I sit here and honestly say I love every little part of myself? No, but that is fine, I don’t think there are many people, if any, that truly do. Do I have days where I look in the mirror and feel like a big toe? Yes (haha), sometimes.
But guess what...?
Self-love isn’t just about the physical. It is about knowing your worth, it is about trusting your ability, it is about giving yourself the opportunity to prove to YOU what you are capable of. And when it comes to the physical, focus on the good, embrace a healthy lifestyle because it is good for you mentally and physically. Hating the unchangeable is a huge waste of time, energy and opportunity.
Two years ago I finally acknowledged and accepted that I was worth more. I am in the most loving and supportive relationship (I still pinch myself every day), I feel super appreciated and respected by my amazing clients (again, pinching myself) AND most importantly, I’m in a loving and forgiving relationship with MYSELF!
You can’t hate yourself into a version of you that you love 🙏🏽✨ Be kind to yourself and do the absolute best with what you have - THAT is what life is about.
Oh let’s see how many hands up I can get from people 🙋🏼♀️ imma not lie #mentalhealth has caused me to have these feelings! Some people might experience them all some might experience a few or even one but listen everyone who suffers with #mentalillness have different symptoms and also everyone who suffers with mental health also has different self help ways to deal with it! Who would like to know my techniques for #selfhelp 👏🏻💭#endthestigma#mentalhealthawareness
The 3rd annual Chicks with Sticks Charity Golf Tournament is underway! This group of ladies is incredible. Last year they raised $20,000 for youth mental health services at @foundrykelowna. This year they are raising funds to help take Foundry Kelowna mobile! We are so grateful for your support and hope everyone has a blast on the course ⛳
Posted at: 2019-07-16 00:35:34
You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self! To tap into the strength you thought you didn’t have and the courage you didn’t believe existed. To push past doubt and fear. You got this! Go get it 😘
Stress is a part of life, but learning healthy ways to manage and cope with your stress is an important life skill. Have you taken stock of all the responsibilities, obligations and pressures you are facing in your life now? Have you thought about how you can increase the balance in your life? Making sure you get enough sleep, eat regularly and move your body, even if just for a few minutes per day, is a place to start. Learning relaxation techniques, practicing mindfulness, learning to say no and to focus on yourself, and allowing space for joy in your life are all ways to bring more balance to your life. #mentalhealth#mentalbalance#mentalhealthawareness #stress#stressrelief #relaxation#wellness#selfcare#psychdoc#therapypracticephiladelphia
Posted at: 2019-07-16 00:34:57
We wear green to raise awareness for mental disorders or illnesses. Our mind is a valuable asset in the human body. Without a Healthy Mind We become lost in our own affairs. Currently 450 million people in the world suffer from one or more mental disorders/illnesses. This is currently the fastest growing ill-health and disability issue in society today.Mental disorders (or mental illnesses) are conditions that affect your thinking, feeling, mood, and behavior. They may be occasional or long-lasting (chronic). They can affect your ability to relate to others and function each day.There are many ,Some of the Mental illnesses include: depression, ptsd, bipolar affective disorder, schizophrenia and other psychoses, dementia, intellectual disabilities and developmental disorders including autism.If you think you or someone you love may be struggling with a mental health disorder, call one of these numbers to learn more about various mental health conditions and connect with valuable resources near you.National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
Crisis Text Line: Text “home” to 741741
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)
* Beyond Blue: 1300 224 636
* Kids Help Line: 1800 55 1800
* Mensline: 1300 789 978
* SANE Australia: 1800 187 263
* Veteran and Families Counselling Service (VVCS): 1800 011 046
* Suicide Callback Service: 1300 659 467
* The Samaritans: 116 123
* Mind Infoline: 0300 123 3393
* SANE Line: 0300 304 7000
* The Mix: 0808 808 4994
* Child Line: 0800 1111
#mentalhealth#depression#anxiety#mentalillness#mentalhealthawareness #depressed#suicide#selfharm#selfcare#health#suicidal#selflove#motivation#depressionquotes #inspiration#lonely#aesthetic#learnthefacts#prevention#shbssupportsmentalhealth#shbscares#shbsforhealth#shbsforlife#shbsawareness#ptsdsurvivor#veterans
Because when you make time for yourself , when you look after yourself , your mind, your heart, your body , you open up so much more to love others well.
When your living to give rather than receive it’s just so much more fulfilling!
LOVE YOURSELF ! BE YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY ✨💗
This study’s definitely on the right track. Being hard on yourself does, in fact, result in OCD and anxiety, as previous papers have substantiated. For most OCD and anxious people, however, being hard on themselves started with others being hard on them, and they internalized these voices. This happens when they are surrounded by such people or when they are exposed to the glorification of people who do this to themselves in the name of accomplishment or serving the greater good. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Yoshinori S., Fisak, B. (2019). Inflated Responsibility in Worry and Obsessive Thinking. International Journal of Cognitive Therapy. doi:10.1007/s41811-019-00041-x.
Theres something holy about nature. Actually, nature is holy. There is an undeniable aroma of life all around it. The calming of the water, the beauty of the flowers, the singing of the birds, the smooth intake of clean air...the nourishment to the soul.
🎨: @lettershoppe 🌼 This is your Sunday evening reminder that beating yourself up for any less-than-joyful emotion you've felt this weekend won't change how you feel. And just maybe, how you feel isn't the problem. Maybe you're just a human carrying a full, multi-dimensional set of emotions through life? Maybe that's actually kind of magical ✨ (even if it feels shit right now). Give being gentle with yourself a try, self blame never lead to anywhere brighter 💜💙💚🌈☀️ • [Image description: an illustration by @lettershoppe showing a colourful desk area with flowers, books, sunglasses and a laptop screen that reads "it's not realistic to be happy all the time, no matter what all the motivational quotes on the internet say"]
Today the world didn’t feel so heaven and I made stuff happen. I answered emails I was dreading and almost afraid to due to anxiety. It might sound dumb to some but me putting things off is my first sign of relapsing and I’ve learned that it’s okay if I cannot be 100% or as proactive as I can be when times like these hit and I am overwhelmed with emotion. So today, I won. Not my fears.
Posted at: 2019-07-16 00:30:18
I went from being proud to say “no” to foods that I declared “bad”. I was so proud that I went a year without chocolate - I’m still proud and slightly amazed at myself for that, cause chocolate is life.
Now, I plan ahead. If I want to go out and get gelato (you all need to try @rivarenogelatoaus) or pizza or both in one night, I plan it. Even if I don’t plan it, I make room for it or, I eat it and get over it or make choice and say “no”. I don’t hold feelings to food or guilt associated to a “bad weekend”. I don’t have bad days or weekends. I completely trust myself and my knowledge on calories and emotions that I have stopped idolising “bad foods” where I hold emotions to it and therefor ban myself eating them, then when I cave, I cave hard and guilt comes then a cycle develops. When I had gone through phases of having a “bad day” with food, the following day I would torture myself, workout for hours and starve myself for two days just to make up for that one “bad day”. It’s not life to live like that.
It’s ok to be strong and say “no” and it’s perfectly fine to say “yes” and eat that whole cake too and not feel bad, but be mindful 🥰 I still had off moments, but it’s a minute or so and I move on. I’m still progressing and will always be progressing.
Meet Ashley Greensmyth, Registered Clinical Counsellor at Parallel Wellness in Burnaby! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Ashley’s holistic approach to mental wellness considers how a healthy mind and body facilitates healthy relationships. She believes that collaboration is at the heart of a successful therapeutic relationship and views the client as the expert of their own life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Ashley provides counselling for clients with anxiety disorders, depression & mood disorders. through identity exploration, relationship issues, and life transitions.
Ashley’s Adlerian perspective builds on client’s innate strengths to help guide them towards positive movement, while giving space for reflection, processing and working through other concerns that may arise over the course of therapy.
Book a free 30-minute consultation or 50-minute session with Ashley, by clicking the link in our bio!
Posted at: 2019-07-16 00:29:21
I was hesitant to share this page with people who actually know me mostly because 1.) I don’t like people in my business •&• 2.) I’m paranoid and although 90% of the time I truly don’t care what people think..that 10% does linger. But this meme says it all. Struggles with mental health can be apart of your journey but it doesn’t define you. I made this page in hopes anyone struggling can scroll through and relate to even 1 post and know they’re not alone! 👫👭✨💯 #mentalhealth#mentalhealthawareness #yourenotalone#mentalhealthjourney #striveforgreatness#youcandoit#strong#tough#yougotthis#movement
Posted at: 2019-07-16 00:29:20
This is me constantly at work right now. Something I do to help is stim. During meetings I play with play doh or colour to help me stay in my body a bit more. Are there ways you try to minimise the impact of dissociation? ⁉️.
If you got something out of this post, please consider buying me a coffee at the link in bio. ☕️.
Image description: A meme. The image is of a cartoon penguin whose soul seems to be leaving its body. The text at the top of the image reads “when you’re listening to someone speak and you can feel yourself dissociating”
Money is great. Making the world a better place is what matters most.
Posted at: 2019-07-07 14:50:07
Dreams won't come true just sitting in your head. So you need to get up and chase them. Encourage your friends and family and especially yourself to go after what you want. We don't get a lot of time here so try to make the best of it.
Posted at: 2019-07-01 18:09:45
What am I willing to do to get better?... ANYTHING!
I wrote this post with great love; hope it helps.
Posted at: 2019-06-25 23:59:08
On my last post, I decided to share a bit of info about meditation. This is a practice I have slowly adapted into my life. The first time I heard of meditation I was in a hospital fighting PTSD. I can assure you my life has turned a 180° since then.
Now, meditation can be used for many reasons and if you look into success habits I am sure you will find meditation to be one of the firsts.
If you want to know more about it or find it completely impossible to meditate, I highly recommend you to read my post.